I loved this book! I will definitely recommend this book to anyone, single or coupled, who is struggling with relationships and those who need to reflect on family of origin issues to understand their present and improve their future.
— Dr. Laurie Betito, Sex and Relationship Therapist, author of The Sex Bible for People Over 50, Radio talk show host
In a book world loaded with relationship advice, Learning to Commit stands out... nearly every page offers useful information for developing good relationships.
— Ronald W. Richardson, author of Family Ties That Bind
This book is such a clear and easily understood manual on how to find and keep a relationship with oneself and with others. I cannot wait to teach from it, and to give it as a gift. Avrum’s ‘voice’ is wonderful.
— Adrienne Gold, educator and former tv personality
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... an accessible and useful book about relationships-how to get them, how to keep them and how to improve them.
— Lorna Hecht, MFT Individual, Couples and Family Counseling
… much more than a self-help book… Learning to Commit will leave the reader in a much better position to acquire the evaluative skills needed to achieve an emotionally satisfying coupledom.
— Hanna McDonough, psychotherapist and former lecturer, Department of Psychiatry, University of Toronto
This easy-to-read and substantive book urges you and *gives you tools!* to figure out what you’re about so that you can pick a partner who’s right for you for the right reasons.
— Dr. Rachel Ptashny, psychiatrist

Marriage did not come easily to me. Throughout my 20s and 30s, I struggled with commitment phobia, carrying a melancholic awareness that if things didn't change, I'd end up single and childless. The frightening divorce statistics, along with my own observations of unhappy marriages made me wonder if it was even worth trying. When I did try, I was bombarded with fatalistic advice such as "You'll know when you know"  and "If she were the right one, it wouldn't be so hard". 

Learning To Commit: The best time to work on your marriage is when you're single. (Self Counsel Press, Fall, 2015) is my attempt to share what I have learned, as I tentatively walked towards commitment.  

The book's message is a hopeful one: Your struggles are not meaningless, and you are capable of building a marriage that is far better than the ones you've seen so far.