Marriage did not come easily to me. Throughout my 20s and 30s, I struggled with commitment phobia, carrying a melancholic awareness that if things didn't change, I'd end up single and childless. The frightening divorce statistics, along with my own observations of unhappy marriages made me wonder if it was even worth trying. When I did try, I was bombarded with fatalistic advice such as "You'll know when you know" and "If she were the right one, it wouldn't be so hard".
Learning To Commit: The best time to work on your marriage is when you're single. (Self Counsel Press, Fall, 2015) is my attempt to share what I have learned, as I tentatively walked towards commitment.
The book's message is a hopeful one: Your struggles are not meaningless, and you are capable of building a marriage that is far better than the ones you've seen so far.