This week, while Avrum is off promoting his newly published book*, Lorna and Registered Intern Christina Heymoss discuss marriage, relationships, conflict and conflict avoidance. Do they solve the relationship dilemma? They can only try.
- In many conflict avoidant marriages…both people are accommodating, giving up self to preserve harmony.
- I don’t think you can take lack of arguing as evidence of marital satisfaction or health.
- There’s not some advice that we can just remember to use right away when we’re in an argument with a partner.
- The last thing that I need when I have a problem with my spouse is someone to support me in my viewpoint!
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*Nadigel, A. (2015). Learning to commit: The best time to work on your marriage is when you're single. Self-Counsel Press, (November 7, 2015).
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