#13: Sexual compatibility is not a thing

This week, Lorna and Avrum conclude their multi-part discussion (Part 4 of 4) about the trials and tribulations of being single by having an unsexy conversation about sex while dating and “Post Orgasm Sobriety”.

  • Having varied partners or multiple partners is going to be very different for a person who’s higher on the scale of Differentiation of Self than lower.
  • Most people want a monogamous, committed relationship.
  • Thinking is crucial to picking a quality mate.
  • Sexual compatibility is one of those phrases that people trot out.

“If intense attractions could stop short of sexuality and revel in the delights of a ’separate, equal, and open’ friendship for a protracted period, is it possible that those intense relation- ships would have more chance for long-term success?” Dr. Roberta Gilbert

Bowen, Murray. Family Therapy in Clinical Practice. New York: J. Aronson, 1978. Print. 

"Home." Lorna Hecht. 4 Sept. 2015. Web. 23 Nov. 2015.  

Nadigel, Avrum. Learning to Commit: The Best Time to Work on Your Marriage Is When You're Single. Self-Counsel, (November 7, 2015), 2015. Print.